NEW LIFE / NEW ME - AIRBORNE II

[Fartiltre]

Just home from the Christmasparty at D4s kindergarten.

It went well! D4 ran to my arms when I arrived, hugged me and sat on my lap from thereon. I said hi to W and seated myself next to her. After I finished hugging D4 I got a strange sounding hi from W and interpreted it as either she didn’t hear that I already said hi or she wondered why I didn’t hug her. I know this is properly considered mindreading but that’s how I see it. I didn’t react to it.

I had bought a hat that looked like a Christmastree and that sort of made me the cool parent. The children just kept coming at me at the adult asked where I got it.

After a while she said “It also went very well at D6”. (D6 had christmasparty as well with MIL attending) I felt in her wordings and her tone that she blamed me for not asking – didn’t react to it but simply and nicely told W “Great, I didn’t realize that it had already ended.”. Then she told me a few things about this and I listened.
We talked very little from thereon but interacted through D4. The only thing else I remember is her getting us coffee.
We sat there for half an hour. I kept my attention on D4 and once again I might come out a bit cold towards W. I am kind, responsive and smiling but I don’t ask her anything.
She talked to other parents and, as the last time, I looked at her as a bystander. She didn’t look comfortable or well-feeling. She looked sort of like the person that doesn’t feel they belong at a party. Hard to explain!

When we left D6 and MIL met us. I hugged D6 for a long time and then MIL. We talked shortly and then I hugged all four – W reached out for the hug again.
Then I left.

I think it went well and no awkward feelings at all but I am thinking about if I should ask her something about her life.

Rest of the day has been busy at work and now I am of to GAL!

I do not expect any further contact for the next days since MIL is staying at Ws place and I won’t initiate anything myself. The last days has been more than enough for me and it is time to back off and give her time and space.