WR, If I were in your shoes, I would pack up everything in the way of clothing, things that your S19 can't wear or use, and have them ready for pick up when he comes. That way, he has no excuse to contact you or expect you to pack them up for him.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
