Look what the cat dragged in! (TL)

[tigerlily78]

Tiger, just caught up on your thread. From how you describe your H, I picture a careless teenager who is trying to figure out “what I’m going to be when I grow up”. When I read about the rating of OW as 6 or 7, I thought of a book I read last year. I don’t remember the name of it, I need to find it on my computer (e-book). It was talking about how men rate the gifts, but I think it applies to other things in life too. According to the book, men assign a certain value to things. It is either that or nothing. The good thing here is that OW is not at 10, so she is not “it”. The rating could not go up, it could only go down when the real life starts to happen and when the “holiday lights” will start to deem.

I hope you are right Bright about the shine wearing off. I think in the first few weeks he actually DID think she was a 10. Maybe now that is getting tempered, but I feel like he will be so resistant to admitting he made a mistake and was wrong, that he will stay invested in this new R until it is zero. And maybe it will never reach zero.

I also worry he picked an OW with enough of her own mental issues and lack of responsibility that they can probably ride the crazy train for quite awhile before noticing reality. I mean, as far as I can tell she has never even cooked him a meal, they ALWAYS eat out. Well gee, if I NEVER had to cook a meal or wash a dish I'd probably have a lot more energy to put into my relationship too. We could just chat at dinner staring into each other's eyes for hours on end and no one would have to get up to do the clean up. :P Who knows, she could also learn how to be better in bed and boost her score. I almost think the 6 - 7 rating is "she's still perfect, except crummy in bed" thinking on his part.

I just wish ONE time he would apologize for anything since the whispered, "I'm sorry for everything." Which happened in bed, and the everything he is sorry for must be different things than the running off with another woman. I guess I should have asked for clarification.

I keep apologizing for my role in our various arguments. He never takes any accountability for his side of things. It's like he can't even admit that under the circumstances I am actually behaving pretty much as one would expect or BETTER... don't I have some pretty decent reasons to be pissed off?