Look what the cat dragged in! (TL)

[tigerlily78]

Thank you all for your thoughts. I broke/wrecked Thanksgiving. It was literally a disaster.

H and son were playing their game together, I told son when they finished a round NOT to play again, dinner would be ready in 20 minutes. He relays the message in the game to H. H ignores this, starts a new round.

So I finish the food, tell son "The food is ready now" he relays the message to H, who replies "So I guess we are eating now..." Yes, we reply.

Another 10 minutes or more after that I send son upstairs to ask if he is going to come down and eat with us. "yes" he says. ANOTHER 5 minutes. I have dished up son and he is already 80% done eating at this point.

H FINALLY comes downstairs and is dicking around with his phone. I lost all sense of calm. We waited for him already and then he has the nerve to bring the phone with?

I say, "Please don't screw with your phone right now. That's really rude." He says, "You don't even know what I'm doing." I say, "I have a pretty good idea, if you wanted to spend the day with HER then you should have." We already waited around for you, son is almost done eating... do you even care?

He says, "Don't assume you know what I'm doing! I am working on my phone." I say, "Don't bullshit me, no one at your work is working today, you have nothing you need to do on your phone for work." He says "I'm working on my own project. You don't even know what I use my phone for. Why do you have to be such a bitch? I was coming down here to eat with you guys. You didn't even dish me up yet." I say, "I didn't dish you up yet because you are an adult and I expected you to come dish yourself up so I didn't force you to eat more than you wanted." He gets all defensive and pissy and takes the plate I dished up for myself and takes it upstairs to eat.

We had some other shouting matches through the door, but that was about it. He also played more of the online game with son.

All I wanted was for him to come downstairs reasonably quickly and be present in the moment, was that too much to ask?

It makes no sense that he quit the game when I said dinner was ready and then decided to start pissing around with whatever on his phone. It does not make sense. Even if I was wrong about WHAT he was doing, bringing that phone down to dinner is freakin rude and disrespectful. The phone is one of the most obvious symbols of his relationship with OW.

20 minutes without the phone, is that really so much to ask? GRRR.