Walking Down a Different Street - still walking...

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And we've probably all seen the hiding the phone and changing all passwords routine.

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And before I forget again, Happy Thanksgiving.

[MileHigh]

And we've probably all seen the hiding the phone and changing all passwords routine.

Yep. The phone is always nearby and if we're out, the purse always goes to the bathroom with her. She just went in to take a bath, and I saw her phone sticking out of the front pocket of her jeans. She never put her phone in her pocket - she doesn't like to carry anything in pants pockets.

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And before I forget again, Happy Thanksgiving.

Thanks! It's been good so far. Would be nice without the whole separated/not sure how to act awkwardness, but other than that, having a nice time at home relaxing, watching movies. Going to build a fire since it's so darn cold out.

Wishing everyone could spend all the holidays with their wayward spouses, and without any awkwardness!

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Thanks for the wish MH I wondered where you were and now realised you started a new thread without telling us. tut tut My H would be lucky if he found my computer monitor at the mo underneath the painting sheets, lol. Still on the college pc and still not been caught, hehe
Talking of mobile phones, my H doesn't even bring his in or if he does he'll leave it in his pocket. It's been ages though since he's been in the house that I've forgotton all his WAS/MLC quirks.
Belated happy thanksgiving MH, though I did say it on FB

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Thanks. I'll have a full DIY update and a report on the ups and downs of a long holiday weekend with the wayward W. But first.... off to the dentist for a root canal.

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My sympathies on the root canal - hope your dentist uses enough novacaine to adequately freeze your mouth. Root canals are unpleasant enough without still being able to feel the drilling - and yes that is personal experience from my one and only root canal (next time I'm having the tooth pulled instead of having a root canal done LOL).

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Root canal went well on Monday. Afterwards, since I was downtown anyway, went to a movie instead of working - guess what? I'm off again this week and yes, I had forgotten again. LOL. Here's to next year's vacation being better planned!

It's hard to eat popcorn with a fresh root canal and a face full of Novocain, but I managed. Great diabetic diet that day - package of mini-donuts for breakfast, followed by movie theater popcorn for lunch.... ugh. Bought a rotisserie chicken for dinner, then remember I had half a turkey breast from Thanksgiving still. I put some in the freezer. I simply have to stop wasting food and money!

Speaking of $ - W gave me $500 for the taxes on this place - I noticed I was a month overdue paying them. Oops. It was the school tax - hate to deprive those poor kids their learnin'. They need all the help they can get, what with the school system. LOL

I do wonder how she managed to save $500 while I'm squeezing nickels for their blood, but.... I love how well we communicate. When I asked if there was a bill for the other house, she said she paid it already a long time ago. Last time we discussed it was weeks ago after her panicked email or text saying she didn't know what to do about paying it, and I had said let's both see what we can set aside for the next few paydays before it's due....

One thing I'm trying to take into account when W is over here, or we're out together is that a lot of her rude/b*tchy behavior comes from fear, and unresolved childhood issues. Just like a lot of mine comes from pain/health issues and worry about finances. I'd love to see her get help for her stuff, but I can't force her. I'm trying to change my frustration to empathy and also set a good example for her when when dealing with my own problems.

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Root canal went well on Monday. Afterwards, since I was downtown anyway, went to a movie instead of working - guess what? I'm off again this week and yes, I had forgotten again. LOL. Here's to next year's vacation being better planned!

I still don’t know how someone can forget they’re scheduled to be on vacation . But I’m glad the root canal went well .

It's hard to eat popcorn with a fresh root canal and a face full of Novocain, but I managed. Great diabetic diet that day - package of mini-donuts for breakfast, followed by movie theater popcorn for lunch.... ugh. Bought a rotisserie chicken for dinner, then remember I had half a turkey breast from Thanksgiving still. I put some in the freezer. I simply have to stop wasting food and money!

At least in the dark no one can see the struggle of eating with a frozen face LOL . If it’s in the freezer it isn’t wasted – unless you forget it’s there and end up throwing it out this time next year LOL .

Speaking of $ - W gave me $500 for the taxes on this place - I noticed I was a month overdue paying them. Oops. It was the school tax - hate to deprive those poor kids their learnin'. They need all the help they can get, what with the school system. LOL

A friend of my dad’s keeps complaining about having to pay school tax when he hasn’t got kids, grown up or otherwise. I want to know how come I still have to buy supplies, pay for loads of stuff and still get asked for donations to fund raising for the school.

I do wonder how she managed to save $500 while I'm squeezing nickels for their blood, but.... I love how well we communicate. When I asked if there was a bill for the other house, she said she paid it already a long time ago. Last time we discussed it was weeks ago after her panicked email or text saying she didn't know what to do about paying it, and I had said let's both see what we can set aside for the next few paydays before it's due....

How much blood can you get from a nickel?

One thing I'm trying to take into account when W is over here, or we're out together is that a lot of her rude/b*tchy behavior comes from fear, and unresolved childhood issues. Just like a lot of mine comes from pain/health issues and worry about finances. I'd love to see her get help for her stuff, but I can't force her. I'm trying to change my frustration to empathy and also set a good example for her when when dealing with my own problems.

You are so right – you can’t fix her. Maybe she’ll eventually see that you are working on your problems and she’ll decide to work on hers .

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W sent me a sad skype. She's very sad, stressed at work, can't sleep.

Scary that she said sometimes she wished she would just die and that she sometimes feels like she's going to have a heart attack (from the work stress). She's very healthy and always has been. Just recently had a physical. Pretty sure it's just panic attacks. I told her how it can feel like that.

She had made a similar comment about the state of the world when I was joking about Skynet (from the Terminator movies) because of something I read in a tech article. She basically said the sooner we all die the better.

I told her how much I understand, and how many times I felt the same way over the years from work stress (had my heart checked twice - just fine!) and how I sometimes wish we'd have just skipped college (and all the debt we accrued from it) and just had jobs we could leave behind at the end of the day. I said I often dream of just dumping the job and the debt and running away (hey, you never know....). I wish she could jest quit her crappy job, but in 15+ years since college, her student loan has been deferred so many times I think it's actually grown.

I did tell her that her symptoms are depression, for sure and that lots of people, and two kitties, love her. I don't think she's actually suicidal at all - based on how she acts when we're together.

Last night she seemed a bit down, but we did have fun watching Catching Fire again. She already planned to come by tomorrow to have dinner before her hair appointment (which she moved back over to this neighborhood). She asked is I wanted to get the Christmas tree out and decorate it (Humbug! Thought I was going to escape that chore this year.)