Me 13 months on, affair finally confirmed.

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Had one of those moments where something lights up in your head.
The W spend time trying to get me diagnosed with depression, on anti-depressants and then for me to apply to leave early last year, back to the city. All this was done just before BD and after BD. I declined going back to the city, as much as I wanted to, because I wanted to fight for the marriage.
But my lit up moment was, the W wanted me gone, it seems to be the way she can deal with the separation. So in the beginning when I was around her more, texting her more etc. I got more in return: replies, coffee time etc.
So by ignoring her, going dark and not texting: is it making it easier for her to go about doing her stuff without the worries of the separation?

In saying all that, I cannot do anything different, the coach doesn't suggest anything different and I don't think anything different would help now anyway.

It was just one of those thoughts that enter our minds at different times. It didn't or hasn't sent me on a downhill rollercoaster ride.