How are you going to work on the WHY of your alcohol use?
I know I am not physically dependent because when I don't drink for a few days, or a couple of weeks - whatever - I suffer no physical withdrawal symptoms whatsoever. I have professional experience in this area. And it matters inasmuch as I know while I may need social and emotional support and therapy to control my drinking, I am not in medical need of withdrawal support. Why do you ask? Am I misunderstanding what you're asking me?
The why of my alcohol use - good question. At the moment I am looking for ways to GAL, look after myself, treat myself, care for myself that don't involve booze nor unreasonable emotional demands on my husband. I actually made a list this afternoon!
@Mimi - no, no BDs - or rather, ones said in anger or while drunk, but quickly brushed under the carpet. As was said before, there's no honest communication when drink is involved - for both me and him. But I do feel that it's only going to take one more argument - or perhaps an external crisis - financial, children being ill, something like that - to finish us off. I do feel like he's dangling by a thread, and only in the house because he's not got resources to move elsewhere right now.
I love your suggestions for 180s. I think he does need to be pursued a little. To be honest, I have no idea how to do this. But I can work on finding out. A bit of trial and error. And certainly a hair cut and a new set of clothes never hurt anyone.
I was GALing out with friends this evening. They don't know the situation and I didn't speak about it. They'd just had some good news, so we spoke mainly about them, but it was fun and happy and I felt good when I came home.
