Look what the cat dragged in! (TL)

[BrightFuture]

Tiger, just caught up on your thread. From how you describe your H, I picture a careless teenager who is trying to figure out “what I’m going to be when I grow up”. When I read about the rating of OW as 6 or 7, I thought of a book I read last year. I don’t remember the name of it, I need to find it on my computer (e-book). It was talking about how men rate the gifts, but I think it applies to other things in life too. According to the book, men assign a certain value to things. It is either that or nothing. The good thing here is that OW is not at 10, so she is not “it”. The rating could not go up, it could only go down when the real life starts to happen and when the “holiday lights” will start to deem.

Your H reminds me of some things my H said and did. He said that I was the best thing that happened to him in life (so far, I guess), but then he told me that we drifted apart and didn’t have much in common. When I asked what we didn’t have in common, he had a hard time explaining. One of the things he said that I didn’t like to go the bars and concerts. Then he hesitated a bit after mentioning concerts, and said that “oh, no it is not exactly like that”. And I always went to the bars with him wherever we traveled. The only bar I didn’t like was the one in Mexico where the smoking was so bad that I could not breath sometimes and it triggered my migraines. Then from some other evidence I had about him and potential OW (Mexican girl) I made a conclusion that he wanted an easy going drinking body in the skirt. It is just like for your H with skating and finding somebody who likes to do it.

Tiger, I’ve reading your updates and I’m impressed how well you are handling this. You are right to set your boundaries about sex. I don’t think that some comments about him getting a mediocre sex at OW’s hurt your case that much, as long as you stay calm and stand your ground.

Hope you are having a wonderful Thanksgiving.