Fight for my wife, welcome to DB and thanks for your suggestion A few friends have told me to sign it from the two of us already, but I don't want people ringing me up and saying why didn't you tell us, what happened, etc. I think your suggestion of putting 2013 hasn't been a good year is a good way of saying things NQ
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
You may be surprised to find that some of your friends will have already figured things out anyway, at least they may have if they're people that you've seen or spoken to during the year. They seem to have a way of knowing that something isn't right with you whatever you say to them.
I'd just sign the cards from you and your son, maybe add the line about 2014 being a better year than 2013 was if they're closer friends/family and just leave it at that. If they want to know, they'll ask won't they.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I just did a Thanksgiving text to everyone and signed it from Me, son, and the zoo. If anyone asks why H wasn't included they can ask and I will tell them.
Me 44 H 42 M 10 T 12 (at time of BD) Ss 20 16 S11 (special needs)
BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom 10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied S and I move out 3/15
We don't usually send out holiday cards, so at least there's that. But I asked my DB coach, what should I do about teacher gifts for the holidays? I asked her more in the sense that I wasn't sure whether to include H, talk to him about it, or just assume he would do his own thing, but I'm not sure the reason matters. The answer I got was, sign it something vague. Like, only write the kids' names, or write our last name - e.g., "Love, the Smiths." I like that idea because that could include myself and kids, or my H too, and the recipient can interpret however they would like. If they don't know anything, they won't think to ask, and if they do, they will know it means from me and the kids.
JMO, but I don't think a holiday card is the best way to let people know about the struggles in your personal life.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
I agree melissa but some people I send cards to I don't speak to them on the phone or FB. I will just go along with signing it from me and my son and leave it at that
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well looks like I'll have to make a few phone calls before Christmas as that is what I've decided to do Having a break from the busy day I'm having at the mo. Met my friend in town this morning for a coffee and some lunch. Helped out on a charity stall in town, handing out leaflets. Just come back home to have a mug of tea before my son gets home Then it's off out again to see the town's Christmas lights being switched on Got my thermals on so I'm ok now, but I was freezing this afternoon. At least we've not got the snow, Yet!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well I didn't go back out as it was too cold and wet! I did ask my son when he came home from college and if he really wanted to go I would've gone. He just said that he wanted to just chill out which was fine by me Spent most of the evening doing my xmas shopping online It's black friday online over here today so got a lot of things at reduced prices Was really impressed with the new brita filtered kettle I go for half price! That's an early Christmas pressie to me Got a decorator coming round tomorrow to see about getting the living room done before xmas and the builder is coming round on sunday to look at our conservatory roof Mum's money has made all the difference It will be just typical of the decorator to say can I clear the lounge of furniture, lol. I'll tell him where to go, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
TTD180, sorry the mediation didn't go as well as planned, but one thing is that the DB principles had lead you to doing something about that sitch. That is the positive, you stood up for yourself. With regards to the cards, that is a tough one. I probably would think that if they don't know, then they probably don't need to know. Either sign it from you and your son, or your surname only (ie: The Smiths). Thermals? I hate the cold weather, nearly hitting the 40's here. Santa turns up in a pair of board shorts, or if you are lucky (or unlucky) a pair of budgie smugglers. Don't know what they are? Check out urban dictionary.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Just looked up budgie smugglers but I guess anyway, lol. That would be a sight for sore eyes, santa turning up in speedos, lol. No thank you, lol. Thanks for the kind words HWA The problem I've got is a couple of my cards I'm sending out are very good friends, but I don't speak to them that much is that makes sense They're too busy working. I did try and ring one of my friends tonight to tell her the news but he phone was switched off as usual. That's what I've decided to do It's not pleasant telling people which is why I've been putting it off. I only tell people if they ask about H. It took me 5 months to tell my parents and that was by letter! I suppose it's to do with my lack of self confidence, which I thought was getting better but it's not. At the mo the wind is howling outside. They've threatened snow again, but I can't see anything happening anytime soon, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I had the decorator round today, he was only young but he seems hard working He's got a massive job in the nearest city and so he can only come round in the evenings and Sunday afternoons. Looks like I've been forced into decluttering, lol. He's asked me to move all my papers from my computer desk, the books that came out of the bookcase and anything else I've got lying around. The airer's been put in the kitchen and it may have a new home I'll see how I get on. It'll be there at least until after xmas as that's where the tree is going. Got 2 church services tomorrow, the morning one and Christingle in the afternoon. The Christingle one is lovely and they always dim the lights so just the Christingles are lit
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
A few friends have told me to sign it from the two of us already, but I don't want people ringing me up and saying why didn't you tell us, what happened, etc. I think your suggestion of putting 2013 hasn't been a good year is a good way of saying things NQ