I have a 11lb yorkie....he's the best. If I didn't have him I'm sure my days wouldn't be as bright, he makes things more normal.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
I agree about the dog, mine is really needed, but she's so cute. I finally got rid of her ridiculous pink collar that W picked out, and got a new tag with only my contact numbers on it.
Today I'm going to the auto/truck show that's in town at the convention center. I'm a bit of a car nut so it should be a good time, I've got my camera charged.
I plan to pick up a Christmas tree today as well, and start decorating it, I think she took all the ornaments though. It's random the things she chose to take vs leave here at the house. Perhaps they are here and I'm not looking in the right place.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
Today was pretty good, went to the auto show for awhile took a bunch of pictures. Sat in the new Stingray Corvette, ZL1 Camaro, and Audi R8 Spyder. It was pretty entertaining and on the shuttle bus back to the parking lot, I got in a good conversation with the bus driver. It was just he and I riding back to the lot, so it would have been awkward to be silent. I asked him about his life, and congratulated him on his upcoming retirement and having the foresight to set aside money to be able to retire at 61. I hope I built him up and made him feel good.
I also stopped and got a Christmas tree on the way home, already have it up, lit and the 6 ornaments that W decided to leave me on it.
I read some of AnotherStanders posts about a low energy WAW and I believe I have one (knock on wood). I mentioned we should put the house on the market when we met up 11/9. If it were me wanting to get the D from her, and the house was a major stumbling block, I think I would have moved more quickly in finding a realtor. She put in one of her emails something about still researching them and sending me the lady's info before moving forward. I'm not complaining, but still waiting to hear from her. I'm trying to not let the fact that she is a LE WAW throw me for a loop. She still seems determined to go through with this from all of the talk/actions I've seen. She makes no attempt to contact me unless I reach out to her first. Going dark does not seem to be helping in that department.
I decided I would wait to push switching vehicles until she contacts me about putting the house up for sale. Sort of a cause/effect, she inconveniences me by putting the house for sale and making me find a place to live/move out, I'll take away the nice car. I know that's vindictive and churlish but that's what I feel like doing now.
As far as I know, her seasonal job comes to an end soon, maybe that will change her energy level in terms of getting this D pushed through. Only time will tell.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
The minister that performed our wedding ceremony and I have been in email contact since BD. He asked me at one point to give W his cell phone number, to give her the option to contact him. She never did.
He emailed me today to wish me a Happy Thanksgiving, and he asked for her email address as well. I told him I wanted to give it to him, but I couldn't. That he needed to get it from her grandfather or mother (who he is friends with). I don't want him contacting her to be seen in any way as coming from me. I have not asked him to reach out to her, and will not control him and ask him to not talk to her either.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
Hey K, I think you did the right thing having him get the email address from her family.
I hope you have a good thanksgiving!
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
Thanks Mimi, I feel like it was the right thing to do as well.
I just took the dog for a chilly 34 degree Thanksgiving morning walk, and recorded some movies to watch today. Turns out all the volunteer slots were filled here as well, so didn't get to end up volunteering. I'm telling myself it was the thought that counted!
I hope you have a good Thanksgiving as well!
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
I've been reading others post that they had a hard day with their spouses. I had a hard day without mine. It seems like it would have been difficult either way, so I'm trying to keep that in mind.
I broke out the Xbox for the first time in months, maybe that will take my mind off of things.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
I've been reading others post that they had a hard day with their spouses. I had a hard day without mine. It seems like it would have been difficult either way, so I'm trying to keep that in mind.
I broke out the Xbox for the first time in months, maybe that will take my mind off of things.
Get gta 5. That'll keep you occupied for a while. At least for me it did.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
I don't know what's harder.....but I think I'd rather have my H here to atleast attempt a good time. I didn't even hear from him today...just see that he posted pics w/ his female coworker/possible OW. I think I did pretty well today though...
I am glad you are keeping positive and thinking of ways to take your mind off of things. Reading has been my go to (NON-relationship books of course)...I may have to break out my Wii fornthenrest of the holiday season though. I hope you're able to end your night on a good note as well.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
I would have rather had her here to attempt a good time as well. I didn't hear from her at all either, but I made no attempt to wish her a Happy Thanksgiving either.
My 80 pound lap dog curled up on me awhile ago, that was the highlight of my day. I'm just relaxing and watching football.
I finally wrote out my goals and resolutions from reading through Divorce Remedy a second time. I need to start working out hard again, I think my anti-depressant has kind of removed some of my drive in that department. I sort of feel indifferent toward working out right now whereas before I was pretty motivated.
I hope your night goes well too.
H: 29 WAXW: 30
Bomb Drop- 9/9/13 Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14 D Final- 5/21/14 XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14
