How to convince resistant LD wife?

[Ambivalent]

I would consider his desire his.

Meaning that there is not right or wrong there and it isn't something that can be controlled. Only behaviors can be controlled.

As for engaging in sexual I. every single day...uh no! But that doesn't mean we couldn't do other things.

A couple of times a year, perhaps say, anniversary, birthday, Christmas, I may give my H. a coupon for a week of sexual bliss. Meaning everyday for seven days. I would probably plan it out, so I could sustain tension. This would be my way of saying " I get you. " and I am willing to love you the best that I can.

And yes him masturbating is something that is his choice to do as well.

I remember how I felt in my early 40's and remember feeling horrible for teenage boys. I had no clue that is what they felt. To be frank, I believe it would have been horrible. At least I, being married could engage with my H. Boys don't have that option.

As for what you can do? I believe we've exhausted the ideas. I do not believe that because of your age, you should feel poorly about your high L. but you will need to take care of yourself.

She does not believe that your needs are important. The more you pursue, the more she will withdraw. Unless she empathizes with you, places your needs as a priority , I do not believe it will change.

I personally would make it very clear about how you feel about her attitude towards the marriage and your needs.

Not berate her, really share your feelings about rejection, and how you feel about her choosing to act the way she is.

You too have to make a very personal decision. If she could care less, what does this say to you? Because this is a huge thing for you. If you are happy and content in all other areas of your relationship, and you do not wish to abandon it for this one area...perhaps join her?

I don't know, is there a prescription that kill libido? You could possibly take it several times during the week? This way your body doesn't drive you crazy?