Today is abad place for some reason One of those dayswehn reality hits and hurts..
So as I move forward I know he is going to want a conversation at some stage about what we are doing and where we are going I am not initiaiting it but he has said we cannot pretend nothing is happening..
It could be this weekend and I am not sure of my reactions I have my boundaries but I do not think they will be part of the equation because he doesnot want to be married
I would like to have a chance to save the amrriage though I know the time is not now
So how do I proceed. Do I tell WS I want to think through what he proposes though I don't know what that is. Until he stops seeing the OW I do not have any other thoughts really.
I realise now I should not be telling him I want the marriage to continue or to argue with whatever he is proposing. I realise I should validate his feelings while not neessarily recognising they are right
I would really appreciate advice on how to manage this conversation so I am seen as strong and in control but not pushy and controlling..
