We are on the brink

[Mimi00]

I dont recall you mentioning any BDs from your H...so that's great.

I say as far as him not initiating sex....if you feel its appropriate for your sitch, you can do a 180 in that area by not initiating for a while. But maybe start "speaking" his love language more instead (if you haven't read 5 love languages you may want to check that out). "Speaking" his love language may cause him to "wake up" and begin to be more intimate with you in return.

Other 180s for that you can do fornyour self that may also benefit your sex life... working out, maybe go out and buy your self a few new outfits....also some new "night time" outfits for bed if your current ones arent so eye catching just do things for your self that make you feel good
, they will help with that independence you want to find and I'm sure he'll begin to see a change and be attracted to that confidence as well.

GAL by yourself a couple times a week and do the things you love...a hobby you enjoy. That will help you with you indepenence as well. Sometimes invite your H...but even if he doesnt want to go, still go with out him. Then also find some GAL activities you can do with your kids since you want to work on the relationships with them as well.

That's great you see where the alcohol comes into play for your self and that you've ready decided to take a break from drinking.