Look what the cat dragged in! (TL)

[tigerlily78]

Well, I sent him a text last night to let him know I was not pleased with the skipping work situation. That I understand he feels like the OW is worth losing me, but his actions yesterday seem to indicate he also thinks she is worth losing his job and potentially the house over, and that to me is unacceptable. No reply. None expected.

This morning at 7am he shows up. This is two and half hours earlier than he usually comes home to get ready for work. It basically means he must have left OW's place 10 minutes or less after she did. It is windy and freezing rain, the power has been out at our house for an hour... and he decides this is the morning to drive home early? Maybe he was afraid her trailer would blow over.

He comes into the room and asks if he can climb into bed with me. I say he should only get in the bed if really he wants to and that I just want to be clear that I am not going to have sex with him. He asks if he can cuddle with me. Again I say, it is fine with me, but only if it's what he wants. He says he wants to, "but I can't tell." (Oh great, so basically I am the other woman now.)

There was spooning and squeezing and groping and copious amounts of pelvic movement involved on his end. I just laid there being my cuddly self. I reiterate that although I have really missed him, I am not interested in having sex. He offers to give me some oral pleasure (so tempting!), I turn him down. I say that's not something I would be comfortable with when he is in a relationship with someone else. I tell him he can rub my back for a minute if he wants to do something nice for me. He does.

Then he asks if I will do a favor for him. I ask what favor. He says he wants me to "touch him", he essentially wants a HandyJ. (Ok, so I don't accept sexual favors because we are "not in a relationship" and then he somehow thinks I am going to be willing to do him a favor? CRAZY.)

I say, "You are having super awesome sex with someone else, why in the world would you want to come here and get a HJ from me? That is just silly." He says he ISN'T having super awesome sex. (oh, boo hoo. Is this where I pull out the classic validation. "I'm sorry you feel that way." LMAO) I say, "Oh, well, that's your choice. I'm not interested in giving sexual favors to someone outside of a committed relationship."

We cuddled some more. I told him I do miss him, miss touching him. I had him roll over and I kissed him on his back a few times and rubbed his back and ran my fingers all over him. There may have been a few fleeting touches to areas that are off limits, but I have boundaries. No harm in walking up to the line and then turning away.

Then we napped a little before he had to get up to get ready for work. It was nice to have him in the bed.

Today he asked son about what he wants for Christmas. I love my son... he says, "I haven't even thought about Christmas at all yet with everything that has been going on. We haven't even made past Thanksgiving yet." (Asperger's children, sure don't mince words) I tell H we should think about getting son an electric razor, he is starting to get a total mustache. H is resistant to this idea, says it doesn't look that bad yet. I tell him we can think about it, that son had expressed some interest in shaving a few weeks ago.

H ends up coming home for lunch, ran some small shopping errands for me, and bought a new router to replace the broken one. He had to spend some extra time today getting it set up properly... it cut into his skating time. He also bought a computer game he plans on playing with him over the network.

He tells me before he left, "I am going skating tonight." I say, "I know you are skating tonight, you usually do, the real mystery is when you're coming home." He says, "I'm coming home tomorrow morning." I tell him, "Oh, well that's stupid. I hope you enjoy your mediocre sex." He gives a little snort and leaves the room.

I was doing so well, right up until that last comment. Guess we will see what time the cat drags him in tomorrow and whether it seemed to have a bad impact or not. :P