Labug, no, I don't want to be talked to like that. If it comes to it I may have to set that boundary. It's not like he is really talking down to me, but just gets a know-it-all kind of tone that really irritates me. I am sure that I do the same as well. He was getting mad at me for telling him how to speak!
And we really don't argue that often. When we do we both get on the offensive, I am guilty as well. Once we get to the point where we are both attacking each other, we go around in circles and nothing gets resolved. I'm hoping that we can actually finish our conversation another time, when we are calmer. In the heat of the moment the issues all seemed so important, and then when we had cooled down our problems seem more solvable.
I think my H is getting frustrated because he feels we argue and nothing gets solved. Perhaps if we can sit down and calmly discuss things and try to see each others sides things might get resolved so we can move on and (hopefully) let go of some of our resentments. I am also starting to think we need MC soon, as I am worried we might mess things up on our own! H is not quite ready yet though... ah!
Other than that, things have been going great for us. There is a whole new and exciting dynamic between us.
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
