I just heard this on the radio: 95 percent of M people fantasize about having sex with other people, but there is no correlation between fantasizing and having an affair.
I know my H lives in a fantasy world. I know for a fact he had a brief A with EA 3 yrs ago, why did he stop, and go back to the fantasy world? I wonder why he doesnt continue a PA with her.
He once said he didn't like being a hypocrite, but he also says, he doesn't like her that way, and vise vera, but he has made some flirty jokes to her, that she squashes.
He was out the door almost 2.5 yrs ago. Declaring his love for her, admiration, and need to be with,why didn't he go? Why did he stop the A, and stay with me only to become her BFF.
He says I stopped him by crying and fighting him, pre db. What does that really mean, I didn't have a gun to his head, he's a big boy, he could have over powered me.
Even when the tears stopped and I was ok with him leaving, almost a year now, he's here. Taking care of me and the kids and hanging on to his EA. Cake eating?
Does a sitch like this ever come in favor of the LBS? Why would a man make a change when he's "getting away with it" and it's this easy?
This is my confusion, I just thought I would put it out there into cyber land.
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
