I guess I didn't realize that I had stopped being the captain in the relationship. I pay the bills, I take care of the house, and all matters pertaining to fixing/yardwork/projects, etc.
"Captain" behavior is alpha. All those things you mention above are beta. Alpha qualities are what attract women to us to begin with. Beta qualities may make them feel comfortable in staying, but the passion comes from alpha stuff.
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I let her make a lot of the decisions on things, and kind of went along for the ride. I need to step up and be the man. I need to be the leader.
Yeah, when you back down from making decisions your W will step into the captain role. But she doesn't WANT to be captain, she feels like she HAS to be captain because you're not. That builds resentment.
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I have read on here where i should NOT buy her a gift (christmas) and should NOT make a big deal. But i feel like it would be the same old thing for me. I feel like i need to show her that these events ARE important to me.
Unfortunately what may have worked when you were still together but perhaps just having some difficulties will no longer work once you have a full-blown WAW on your hands. If you buy her an expensive gift now she'll see it as a bribe to get her back rather than as a heartfelt expression of love.
