Back....again.

[TrentC]

Well....I think it's finally come to the end and I basically don't think there is anything I can do anymore.

There wasn't a lot you can do to fix your marriage, because it's not your problem to fix, it's his. We've been telling you from day one that you can't fix him.

He played stubborn and didn't go and stayed home but the second the game was over he left with them and didn't come home till 3 am and didn't answer any of my texts. That was Sunday and be hasn't really talked to me since except last night.

Because you're not letting him have his way any more. He's been pushing you around and feeding you crumbs of hope to keep you exactly where you've been for months.

I asked him what was wrong and he said I'm annoying and he doesn't want to be around me or talk to me. I asked him how to fix it and he said he doesn't know if we can and that our marriage is at an all time low. I told him marriages go through ups and downs and you communicate and figure out the problem and make it better. And he he just wouldn't respond. I left the house for a few hours and when I got back be was still livid.

OK, now stop bothering him about it. Rule one of divorce busting is to stop pressuring him about the relationship; if he has made up his mind that he's going to go, then pressuring him will only strengthen his resolve to do so. If he has not, then backing off may make him reconsider.

And yes TrentC, it does seem like his problems with us are always changing...maybe he is just never gonna be happy in our marriage?

It is possible, but your husband can't fix problems by running away from them.

If it wasn't for his age, then I'd swear that these are classic midlife crisis symptoms: restlessness in his life; the feeling that he's "trapped" by his choices; the desire to act younger and more carefree (irresponsible); the unexpected emotional outbursts. You might want to swing by the Midlife Crisis board on DB and check it out.