I am a newcomer and hoping for some advice. How do you deal with mixed signals?

My husband speaks a lot of 'future' talk. What we will do this summer, buying things for the home, etc.

At the same time, he's having an affair and when asked, says he doesn't love me like a husband should and doesn't know if he can do this any longer.

We go out with friends and have a great time, like everything is normal...but then he pulls away.

Crazy rollercoaster!! What does he want?

Me:33 H:35
M: 12 years
D-15 S-6
Bomb: 6-2013
OW: 11/2013
Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair
Kids and I moved back in 12/2013
H moved out 2/2014