Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

How big of a problem might this present. I accidently sent a text that was meant for a friend to my W.

The reason it was sent in the first place was out of frustration with my sitch. When I want to go to the Martial home I must text or call first to let my W know I am coming. I am living with my parents at the moment about 5 mins away. I have always wanted to move back to my home and my W knows this. I chose not to push the issue until recently because our dog was sick and would be more comfortable in our home. But the poor thing past away 9 weeks ago and then that is when I restated my desire to move back.

The thing that gets me is when my W comes over to my Parents house to see them she just walks right in the house with no call no knock or anything. This latest incident happened last week. It was nice to see her but it is still frustrating how she does this. My parents don't mind but I feel she should have the same respect for me that I am showing her. As soon as she left I wrote the text I didn't pay attention which thread I was on and hit send.


This is what it said " my W just left after coming over to see my parents. Can you believe she just walked right in. I was out in the driveway and watched the whole time. I then went in and saw her. She saw me with my gym stuff. WTF!!! sorry to bother you just journaling to you can I please please talk to you later."

Of course this made my W call right away. She said "I got that text you sent". I said " yeah sorry about that it was meant for such and such person" I used the name of a relative not the actual person it was meant for because they are a mutual friend. she sounded like she was going to get upset or cry she said Bye and hung up.

She then called my Mother and talked to her. Saying "our problems are not yours and mine and sorry if walking right in upset you". My mom assured her that she didn't mind and the door is always open for her.

What I didn't know is My Mother invited the W to Thanksgiving Dinner when she was there and she didn't flat out say no. This was before she received the text though.

Do I just let it go because it is done and over with and I already apologized? Or should I be proactive and tell her it would be great to see her on Thanksgiving but not say anything about the text?