Yes yes, that's a nicer way of putting it, not your responsibility. You're not making her feel or not feel effects; that's just making things complicated. You're divorced. Clear minds drew up a fair decree for you to follow. You're barely even setting a boundary here, just doing what you all agreed to previously. You're not making her struggle, just reminding her of what you both agreed to.
I have two teens. At 4 they didnt like having to sit for bug dinners of foods they didnt even like, and couldnt have cared less if they gathered on thursday or also on friday.
As your son solidifies his understanding of what holidays are, try to give him a gift of knowing that they're about the heart, spirit, and family, and not about the date or the specific routine. Give yourself that gift too. If you are forcing good cheer for him and dreading it, and glad when it's over, even if you're a great actor he will pick up on it and it will become part of what holidays mean to him. Reach for authentic joy and show him that.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
