out of my way to keep XW from having to feel all of the fall-out from her decision to leave - and I think you have been right.
I would drop this line of thinking. Keep your boundaries but let go of ideas about the "fall-out" she gets. Not your business.
What kind of plans do you have for Thanksgiving? A friend is leaving today for camping at Joshua Tree, I wish I had broken form the "traditional" Thanksgiving when my kids were young, or alternated years.
Next year I'm doing something non-traditional.
Whatever yo do, make it enjoyable. XW is not your responsibility.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
