Kimmerz, There may never be any talks for closure purposes between the girls and their father. Some mlcers will eventually talk to their children or spouse about things, but they would much rather sweep the situation under the rug and forget about it. In your xh's case, he's still in replay and is still angry about his situation. He doesn't want to face the fact that he had choices and he made the wrong ones and that's why he has nothing left in the way of material things. He went from having a beautiful wife, beautiful children and a good home life to living w/a woman who is taking him for everything he can provide to struggling because he's lost so much. All because he wanted to relive his youth and is now trying to grow up.
Kimmerz, your new relationship will be fine. You both are sharing a lot of your pain and hurt and you both have walked thru the ring of fire. Just be careful not to allow those talks become the foundation for your relationship. There comes a time when you will need to start putting the past in the past and begin living in the future if you want a healthy, loving and supportive relationship w/this man. I think you know this already and are working on it. So, I may be saying things that aren't necessary.
You and your girls have come a long way. I can still remember the cell phone problem of a year ago. So much damage and for what? Just to leave a relationship and play Peter Pan.
You are doing well. Try not to allow his actions rule your life. You have so much to be thankful for this year.
Happy Thanksgiving! Give the girls extra hugs and kisses for me.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
