Originally Posted By: complicated (from Rosa's thread)
FY, for some reason I still find it hard not to take H's antics personally. He can be very hurtful. I have always thought H has done this to get back at me because he thinks I have been so hurtful for 25 years. But the longer it goes on I just don't know. Maybe this is the new H?


Yes, he is hurting you greatly. But you do believe he is in a major life crises, dealing with issues that had nothing to do with you or what you did and didn't do, right? If so, then you understand that he is not out to hurt you. He is lost and searching desperately for answers, and people in crises often search for relief in the wrong places.

I understand we all can only handle our spouses rejection for so long, and it is possible that they may remain stuck. No one will fault you if you choose to give up now or later.

But D is a painful process too. So we find a way to continue on. The hope is you find a way to enjoy every day no matter what you choose, and I believe you will.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl