It's like watching the front loading washing machine with a rainbow of colored clothes in it.
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Its like she's looking at a mosaic and cannot even see the beauty of the art because she is trying to see what each individual piece is.
This reinforces that it's not about you. Two months in bed, looking at her life as if it shattered and she's putting the pieces back together, etc. It's good to note those things, but realize this is her battle. It's why you making changes for you is soooo important. If you make them for her or to "get her back" however admirable, you'll fail. Keep that in mind as choices come up. I think you already know this, but it can't hurt to remind you, right?
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W has basically cut off communication with him over the last month. They used to talk almost daily before all this stuff began.
Par for the course. Cutting ties with family or friends they used to spend a lot of time with is par for the course. She'll reconnect later, so no worries.
Keep at it. You're doing great and making a lot of positive changes for yourself. Your FIL echoes that by saying you look happier. You likely are in a much better place now. Be thankful
It's a tough road for her, J. Be mindful of that. She's done some things she'll hate herself for later. She is doing things and doesn't understand why. Be sure she's trying to figure it out. She may blame you and run or she may figure it out. Either way, keep doing what you are doing. It's good for you and the kids and in a round about way, for her and your family as a whole.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
