How to convince resistant LD wife?

[Ambivalent]

I know this wasn't the problem you were dealing with, but would you have thought it was too much and too often if he jumped you by surprise about once ever day? Maybe skipping a day here and there, but then two or three times in a day on Saturday, etc.?

When I was pregnant, no. When I was in my early 40's no! Those were really hormonal times for me. Now , yes. Every day is too much. Build up and a little denial makes for better sex.

What if your husband wanted to try all kinds of different places, role play, etc.? And once a day?

Everything but once a day. It's just too much.

Or are you a person who thinks you'd like this now, but after a few months or years you would want that only once a week or once a month?

I think more than once a week, I know now how to get myself aroused. Before I didn't know how. Now if he didn't change his behavior, meaning I'm not put first, he doesn't try "new" things, share in the planning of possible surprises, and make an effort to speak my love language, date nights, well it would be hard to go there again.

I've more than once heard 2nd or 3rd hand about conversations between middle-age or older women, where one says to the other, "Thank god he's not interested in it anymore, because I'm done with sex!" or something along those lines.

Absolutely, many many women lose interest. It is VERY common.

When my bomb dropped on my head, I asked around. Every woman around my age could care less! I was shocked. For I always felt ashamed and thought I was abnormal. One of my friends told me about her husband begging her.

I was disgusted when she told me, for she laughed. I thought that was SO wrong. Another told me she told her husband that his beard hurt her. To please shave it off or she wouldn't have sex with him. He still has his beard!

I believe women need more novelty and also to learn that they can arouse themselves. They also need to express their hurt to their spouse. I buried a lot of pain, and it killed my libido.