heather, busting , bright, Thank you for your wise comments!
man I just need to get this thru my thick skull!
let it go...
I know what I am supposed to do.
I teeter...want to be friendly, want to keep things good and positive. on the other hand supposed to act as if I have moved on. how do I do both?
move on while being amicable.

I choose to be amicable. By staying friendly and open though I feel I am keeping myself stuck.

I know I don't have to be mean or ugly. how does one remain friendly while at the same time detaching??

M48 H50
M21 T26
S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old
PA confirmed 7/2012
H separates 9/2012
H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY
OW still in picture. h filed 10/13