Willbwell, I understand your frustration. I was there not so long ago, when I thought about H in every event in my life and wished he was there. It started to change slowly when I started to discover what I liked about each event for myself, and not in connection with H. You can set your own traditions and start new things with your kids, the things that you like and that are going to last for years.
Also, about your expectation about him noticing how nice you look… He feels your vibe that you are doing it for him. Please, please, change these expectations. Stop expecting him to notice. Do it for you. I just posted a quote on my thread about how we need to detach from the outcome of our desires, so they could be possible for us.
I hope your D15 gets better and you will have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your kids.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
