I am finding that my recovery time is quicker and quicker. Yesterday was not such a great day, but today was OK. Still stupid busy, of course, but this time of year always is! Is it only me that cannot believe it is only a month until Christmas? Yikes!
Bea,
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They seem at pains to let us know how little they think of us, and yet, and yet, they do not leave us alone.
That is the strange thing, Skippy doesn't even seem to realize what he is saying might hurt me. He just rattled off (and again when I asked him to repeat it!) that he moved twice, the first time in July. Never connected with the fact that may have hurt my feelings.
Of course I am still wondering if he recalls that he has hurt me at all, but that is left to the experts.
I was curious about the therapy but didn't press. I didn't actually want to accidently fall into an OR talk. I could not have handled it. In fact, I think I was trying so hard to stay neutral, I may have overdid it. For example, he did send some compliments my way but I never reacted.
Busting, thank you! I don't know that I did great but I got through it without losing my cookies which I think is a plus. But as we talk, the shadow is there, we both can feel it. He alluded to it but I would not bite. For my sake way more than his, though.
AJ,
A man's perspective is always good! Even on my best days, I was never, ever good at recognizing when someone was interested in me. Drove my friends up the wall when I would be so shocked that some guy asked me out and they would say, we could tell. Up to the point where said guy asked me out, I had no clue. Still don't.
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I don't think he thinks of you as the consolation prize. If that were the case, he wouldn't come back at all after this amount of time. Who would do that? That's way too much work for anyone at this point. No, if I were the one that did all those things, I'd keep going once the OW was out of the pic. Why? Because I'm not going to go through all that pain and embarrassment for a "consolation" prize. Hell to the no, girl!
Does this still apply when they are in MLC? I wondered why the effort after all this time, but I assumed it was MLC cycling. Because, I thought that too - why come "back"? Why after eight months make contact only to fill in the time?
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As I said, he'll be around quite a bit I'm sure. At least for a while. And as he does this, I suspect your feelings will be all over the map - kind of like at BD.
I soooo got a taste of that! Lucky I recover faster than I used to. Don't have the time to indulge in the sulks! I do wonder if he will call again or be in touch. I wasn't awful but not overly encouraging either. As you said, time will tell.
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Even if it comes across as a d*ck move, I think it's a genuine attempt to make a connection.
I'd like to think so even if I am not sure what my decision would be yet.
