Is your daughter now fully recovered and doing well these days? I can't believe how they have grown up. BTW, Happy Birthday to your D. I'm so glad to read that they have grown past all of the changes. You and your girls really had a trip from hades for a long time...but you were/are strong and you set your boundaries and made it to the other side. I'm very proud of you.
I'm glad to see that you are in a new relationship. Take things slow, keep expectations at zero and whatever you do, don't sit around talking about your xh and his magic carpet ride. This is a whole new relationship and one that can be so much better and fulfilling for all of you. Go girl!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.