Yes I am still king of the But! I see you still talk in riddles;-) I know you are trying to get me to think and figure things out. What can I say, I am stuck. I can't pursue my ex-wife and she has nothing to do with me or my kids unless we initiate contact. She is actively dating. Where does that leave me? Do I stop dating and continue to hold out hope for my ex to figure her life out or do I just let go and start to live again and just enjoy things as them come? If I thought my ex still cared and had thoughts of a future with me then hell yes I would wait for her. As things no matter how much I want that it just does not feel possible. Yes I am concerned that if she changes her mind and thinks of coming back that once she figures out I am seeing someone it will cause her to turn away. At the same time one of the things that brought her back last time was because she was worried that she was going to lose me.
So while I appreciate all you have said and how you are getting me to think about the situation I would greatly appreciate some outright honest feedback and direction on what you think I should do. Should I stop dating and just focus on me? Should I initiate contact with ex from time to time? If so how much time should I let go between making contact? Again, think you for your thoughts and feedback and I apologize for the buts;-)
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