Not sure if you remember me. It's Kimmerz. I think it's been close to a year since I've posted.
I haven't forgotten any of you here and have thought of all the support and advice I've gotten from all of you since I stopped posting. The advice and conversations is what's gotten me through this last year in my own personal growth and dealing with XH.
I wanted to point out a few things I've learned for sure in this whole process.
MLC is real! These people seem to jump on that magic carpet and ride into a delusional oblivion that only life and the hand of God can penetrate through.
They don't want to let go. They still want to keep interjecting themselves into your life per their whim. And they do it in ways that will make you crazy! Don't worry, after a while you won't even think twice about whatever drama they throw your way.
Letting go of the hurt, betrayal and ultimate loss of your relationship with the MLCer is the longest and hardest journey you may ever face in your life. Especially if they're consistently interjecting themselves in and out of your lives like it's a sport! It takes TIME. Just when you think you've really moved forward (which yes you have gained ground) things happen and cause a backslide. Be patient. Unfortunately it's part of our growth process. Think of the MLCer as an irritant that's causing you to do nothing more but grow out of your comfort zone and move forward.
As painful as this ordeal is, please try and remind yourself of one thing. WE are growing through this process. If we take this opportunity as a chance to really improve ourselves in every way, with each GROWING PAIN that passes, you will look back and see how far you've come and how much you've grown!
I just wanted to say that there is life after the storm has passed, or after the MLCer has made their exit. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. And with each dramatic wave that hits, just ride it out then take the time to evaluate yourself, your emotions, why you're feeling them and what you can do to manage them better.
I've missed everyone! Hope everyone is doing great!
