15th Thread to Somewhere Uncertainly

[reachingHigher]

T^2, I loved your posts; your thoughts.

Some really spoke to me...

So I need to have my head very clear on what trust and forgiveness means to me...no one would want to return to a R and have the spouse hold things over their heads forevermore.

I know I don't really do this verbally, but I keep thinking he is untrustworthy first..till he proves himself in any given scenario. It's time to let go, for me. Trust first.

I need to show. I need to be the first to give benefit of the doubt.

I loved this concept.

I, too, digested job's reconnex posts over and over again and it helped me get through this year. Thank you, job!

But, in addition to some work on my self-confidence (details on my own thread), I really love the mental concept of trusting first. Like we did trust our spouses in the beginning. Giving the benefit of the doubt instead of always thinking the worst.

What's the worst that can happen, right? We've already been through it and are now stronger, as you said!

It's the perfect mindset to go into a holiday weekend, IMO!

Thanks so much, T^2!!!

P.S. this "trusting" concept may be just the push I need to start my journey back to discovering more of who I am. If I'm always watching H b/c I don't trust him, then what feeble energy do I have left to invest in myself?