Ok, I get the definition of the 180 now. I'm working on doing the 180 on the marriage issues. But do I also 180 the way I behaved right after finding out about the affair? For example, I've gotten really angry, been judgmental, put a lot of pressure on my WW about the affair. I know this has pushed her away from me and to the OM. And caused her to feel great resentment about me.
I'm going to slow down, but not stop the divorce proceedings. Will see how things are going in January, then re-evaluate.
For those of you whose spouses had serious affairs, how long did it take them for the initial fantasy phase to wear off and reality start to set in? For my WW, its really only been about 4-5 months, 3 months since it became physical. She is still not thinking rationally.
