I am from Asia and been married for 10 years we have a 6 yo daughter. My W asked for a D two months ago. Her reasons ILYBNILWY and all the fights in the past and she has no confidence and believe that the marriage can work. In 2005 I was working with her dad in his business and I stood as a company director for him as he is a bankrupt. In 2007 I was charged with CBT for some joint ventures that I was instructed to do by my FIL this went on for 4 years. After I was acquitted I face a civil case whee the other directors was claiming the money back from me of which none came to me.I have signed guarantees for his companies and in 2011 I was made a bankrupt. During that time I have transferred all my company shares to her name as her father invested in my company. She was looking after my finances, due to my fighting for my innocence I lost focus in my work as I was in and out of the court rooms.
He dad was in some financial rut with loan sharks and he used my company to take a bank loans and she signed as guarantee. The company has gone down the drain and she is facing legal issues and blames it all on me as she is a bank officer. My FIL did not even apologies or even offer to help pay off my debt and for the past 6 years I have been working like a dog to bring my self up and I have never blamed her as I did it as her H to help her family. She is a very insecure and complex person and I am always the one to give in regardless if I am right or wrong but she has been sympathetic towards me. With all this I started to focus on my work and find my way back home to my wife as I did not want to see My FIL when I looked at her. Last year she had a miscarriage and according to her some thing died in her and said that I wasn't there for her. Sometime in December last year she went for a holiday with another guy and I found out and confronted her with the evidence. I let it go as she said that nothing happen and decided to put effort in the marriage at the same time working late hours to bring money home and at the same time going to the gym with her 3 times a week thing were getting better but She says that our marriage/ life is too mundane. She has been posting self pic on Instagram some are only in lingerie which was taken by my little girl and some lurid ones which I don't know of. I got involve in this ordeal even though I did not like it. But she started getting angry when I spoke to some of her fan cause she did want them to know that she was married. She constantly on her company phone and very secretive around and not wanting me to know whatever she doing. Money wise she has none as all her bill and debt are piling up and she is also about to be a bankrupt.
Six months down the road the banks are putting pressure on her and I am still fighting hard to get income to settle every debt we have. She asked for a D and to her I am the enemy everything that I do is not right to her and her colleagues mor like her staffs ase giving her support for whatever she is deciding and even depriving me time with my daughter when they have not seen the other side of the coin. She wants an amicable D but I said no. I have done all of research and found TDR The Divorce Remedy. I have read and finish the book and I am on a second round to understand it better cause all I have done so far has not work. We are still living In the same house but sleeping in separate bed rooms. I believe that this marriage can work as I am against D. I have 10 siblings and My parents have been together for 58 years and still going strong where as her parents have been separated for more than 15 years he mum stays with her partner and her dad with his second wife had a teenage girl and a son with a third wife which the second wife do not know about. She has 2 brothers 1 step sister and another step brother with her other second stepmom. Her 2 brother are in the illegal business and so is her dad who is a crook for cheating a lot of people. I am in a financial rut right at the bottom of the pit determined to climb back up in life with lots of prayer for all my friends and family as they supports me with my determinatin to work on my marriage.
My situation is long and if you have any questions please do ask as I willing to share to get any light that can help me.
I am very collected at the moment and looking after and loving myself for the sake of my daughter. What she doing is very selfish and cruel.
