Some more thoughts on the trust and forgiveness thing.
For a long time I wanted her to re-commit before I trusted. I forgive before getting a re-commit because I do it for myself, initially at least. Now it's for her as well.
Thinking through this, a lot, and looking at it from HER perspective....if I were her, wouldn't I want to have some indication that T2 was really, truly able to trust me, truly able to forgive, and not keep bringing my "time away in Las Vegas" up? That every time there was a disagreement, that T2 wouldn't say "Yeah, but I didn't cheat"or "I didn't say awful things", etc? Wouldn't I want to be pretty sure? Wouldn't I want to see T2 actions? Before committing and going through the pain and discomfort of working through all this?
Wouldn't I?
Yup.
I'm thinking I had it a$$wardsback.
I need to show. I need to be the first to give benefit of the doubt.
I trust myself now, surely I can risk giving the benefit of the doubt, right? I'm strong enough if she fails, right?
I think I am.
I know what I need to do, the path is rather clear.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
