Well, obviously, none of that is going to happen. Right now I am just concentrating on me and plan to just let him realize over time that I am not going to participate in that plan.
He recently became aware that I have consulted an attorney to get some advice on laws in our state, etc. and I told him I had made no decisions one way or the other. Having to reveal that info to him (he snooped) probably fueled the divorce avenue.
I suspect that if I were the one to start the proceedings, he would see it as me being the one who left him and he becomes the victim!
In reality, he has no idea what he wants. He is all over the place. One minute he is near tears talking about the void he's left in my life, how much he has hurt me, how much he still loves me and how much he wants me in his life. The next minute he is talking about where to move his belongings "when" we divorce. The next he says he knows I'm just being kind and friendly because I want him back.
I just listen and keep remembering that I can't believe anything he says.
I'm just glad I have reached the point where I can step back and remain calm. It's not always easy - I've just been informed I will be by myself for Christmas, New Year's and our Anniversary shortly after that. But, I took it in stride.
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013
