The problem is that right now I don’t feel like I have done anything at all! I haven’t changed anything!
GOOD! Then keep doing nothing! Sometimes pulling back and doing nothing is exactly what the sitch needs.
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but I am equipped with this strange brain that want’s to analyze and twist everything.
You and every other one of us guys. I never did find peace in my sitch until I QUIT that though. We can't fix our spouses. Only they can do that. You're seeing baby steps, so now you're getting worried that you're not doing enough, right? Just remember, SHE is on HER OWN journey. The baby steps you see have nothing to do with you and everything to do with her.
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I have tried Alka-Seltzer, red wine, shrink, books, coach, meditation, kryptonite, 2x4ing myself, wearing a lead-helmet and then some – but it won’t stop!
Ah, but there's one thing noticeably absent from that list, isn't there? None of those things really fall under GAL, and GAL is exactly what does make it stop.
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That said, I believe that I am able not to act on this and I feel I am close to a place where I recognize these behaviors almost immediately and at the same time it doesn’t affect me to the same extent as it used too.
