You know that may be my problem too! Although I can tell you with kids it is still difficult even if you don't live together to completely detach. There are constantly things that come up. Most things I handle myself.

FY, for some reason I still find it hard not to take H's antics personally. He can be very hurtful. I have always thought H has done this to get back at me because he thinks I have been so hurtful for 25 years. But the longer it goes on I just don't know. Maybe this is the new H?

So RL I completely feel for you. I know exactly what you're going through except H and I don't live together but he still manages to be that cold, distant uncaring person. I too think that he is moving on. I just get this feeling that he is back with OW and has filed. No proof except for the way he is acting.

The bit about OW though is that D21 has told H that she wants nothing to do with OW and if he does she is out of his life. D21 even said that he cried when they talked about it. That's the part I don't understand.

RL, I forget if your kids know about all of this or not. If so, what are their feelings?

M 48 H 50
M 25 T 27
D 20,18,15
6/11 H filed
3/12 H dropped
4/12 H moved out