Coda - My recommendation would be to move forward with the Divorce. These things take time. I am not sure about your state, but in Mi, there is a 6 month waiting period when you have children.
If your W ever changes her tune, you can delay the proceeding at any time. Heck, you can even reconcile after the D. But, these things have the potential of getting ugly, and it is best to put in place the financial and custody boundaries that a legal divorce offers.
If you get to the point where you are thoroughly done with her, it is a long wait while the legal process moves forward.
Bottom line, you need to respect yourself enough to end any relationship with a woman treating you like this.
