Coda? She is telling you that you are the problem and making it seem like if you did this or that it would be better, but in reality it wouldn't be. What you are doing is making it harder for her to do what she is doing, she prefers to cake eat and take her time about what she wants to do, you are pushing her and she is resenting it. This is not your fault. She made the choices she made. She is now wanting to keep you and her OM. She can't. So she is resenting that you are making her choose. I made my husband choose. He filed D. It hasn't progressed yet beyond being served but he too said I pushed it. No, I set a boundary that he can't be in MY life if SHE is in HIS. So he filed. Since it's gone nowhere it makes me think he did it to regain control over the situation and make me back down. All he succeeded in doing was now making it even harder to ever reconcile.
WS moves out 9/11 OWH DD#1 12/11 FR#1 1/12 DD#2 2/12 WS leaves 4/12 WS tries FR#2 6/12 WS/OW move in 7/12 WS leaves OW 9/12 WS back with other OW 12/12 Said OW demanding we D 5/14/13 WS files divorce 8/28/13
