A few things came out that I thought were interesing.
She wishes that i was more assertive. (She feels like she is the stronger individual in the relationship and doesn't want to be that person. She wants to be taken care of)
I feel a big part of this is our jobs. She currently makes more money, yet she hates her job. Maybe she feels like if I were to be more ambitious and find a better paying job, she wouldn't feel stuck where she is.
My W also mentioned "nothing he is doing is changing me". To which the MC said, "Nothing he does WILL change you. You have to make the choice to want to change." ( I don't believe my wife has thought about the situation in these terms)
It was also interesting to see that my W feels like she has given up certain things, for my happyness, and forgot about things that I have given up for her. When some of the things that I have sacrificed for her came up she seemed to soften a little.
I don't know if these talks changed anything. My guess is that they did not. But I hope that there is some part of her that recieved some of the message.
I asked her this morning. "W, you mentioned last night that you felt like you had the weight of the world on your shoulders. I don't want an answer now, or expect one, but is their anything that I can do on my end to help eleviate some of that weight?" and I asked her to think about it, told her to have a nice morning, and left for work.
