Home with sick D16 ... We'll watch some movies or something... Excitement. it's my week with the kids so Xw1 got to go with s14 to football while get the the sick one ....
Oh wow, you need an attitude adjustment.
I would have seen this^^ as an opportunity to be a GREAT FATHER (and what woman is not attracted to that?)
and take care of your sick d. ENJOY That role b/c it's going to be permanently gone soon...and you already are divorced from her mother or never married her?
I have to ask if you are close to your kids at all. And since it sounds as if you are not, then I'd have to say you don't seem close to anyone in your family.
What's up with that? What was your family of origin like? Were your parents in love or very caring or close? Siblings? Any Life long friends?
I think you kind of blew that night, imo. And so of course your d felt "well enough" to go out with her peeps, (perhaps after seeing your reaction to caring for her.She wants to be taken care of too. Maybe you just don't do that "caring for others" thing. If so, you might want to work on that before you get into any other relationships or have other kids. It's pretty fundamental to people.
I just had surgery 2 weeks ago and it requires zero weight bearing for 6 weeks. VERY inconvenient and hard on me and not easy on my family. My h took 2 weeks off, my d24 is off this weekend and I'm getting better on the wheelchair, etc.
Point being, I needed to be cared for even if I did not want it. But those first few days, I needed and wanted it. And it mattered that I had people caring for me. If my h had not shown up for me, I would have been very hurt and my kids would have been horrified. This stuff gets noticed.
Last year my then 15 y/o d had her tonsils out. When our son26 volunteered to care for her so I could do a project the next day, d15 said "no i feel really sick and only mom can take care of me now".
That really touched me and it meant a lot to HER that I was there. Do not gloss over how much it would have mattered to your d to have you there for her fully present just giving and loving HER. Nothing expected in return. Just you giving.
Does that sound foreign to you? Do you make an effort in your parenting? Do you believe your kids would say "yes" to that question if I asked them how you are?
Why didn't you get in your PJs and let her be on the pull out sofa and watch the movies together with popcorn or soup and tea for her?
Man I just see this as a missed opportunity...again.
You have to spot those and act on them. Start now.
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it's my week with the kids so Xw1 got to go with s14 to football while get the the sick one .... 