Look what the cat dragged in! (TL)

[tigerlily78]

Those are some good thoughts Puds. The funniest thing about this whole deal is that H cancelled our cable tv and netflix to save money in the days after bombdrop, presumably so he would have more money to fart around with, but this level of spending is exceeding what we are saving in those areas.

My H is usually the one who pays all the bills, does most of it online and he keeps a spreadsheet with our budget and what our actual expenses were month to month on household bills. We did have sort of a set amount each month budgeted for food and gas... I am spending less on groceries now very deliberately, but HE is spending more on gas and eating out. It's so annoying. What happened to H the responsible guy with the budget?!!

My H makes decent money too and we have been tight. We have some debts we are paying that have pretty big monthly payments, so I know that is part of it. And for awhile we were trying to be more Environmentally Responsible and get the more eco-friendly meats and organic produce and dairy, but that stuff is SO expensive, I have basically cut all of it out for now since H determined we needed the money more than the health/ethical benefits. (H was the one who first determined he wanted to get organic, lactose free milk that cost $4.49 a half gallon... I just kept buying it for him!)

I think we are probably a little too early on in the process for me to have a talk with him about the finances without it coming across as "an attack". Nothing I can say that has even the most mild insinuation of error or misjudgment seems to go over these days. For now I think I just need to STFU about it until he is in a better place mentally.