Thanks for the compliment! We sound like we have very similar situations. I agree about continuing to talk at a later time when things are calm. I struggle with this, too! I just get so emotionally involved in the conversation and so upset that he is treating me so poorly. It has helped me to detach. Going dark for a few days always seems to help us "start over" with conversations. I need to remember to leave all R talk behind. Stop bringing it up. I seem to bring it up when the kids have questions about our family that I can't answer. I see them hurt and I want them to have the feeling of security with their family. Good job on working on validating. EVERYONE on these threads emphasizes how important that is.
Me:33 H:35 M: 12 years D-15 S-6 Bomb: 6-2013 OW: 11/2013 Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair Kids and I moved back in 12/2013 H moved out 2/2014
