Still trying to get up that great Big Hill...

[Pudmuddle]

Hey Ambiv, No worries, I'm always gracious to people who offer their point of view.

I think you misunderstood where the depression happened. My depression never happened because of any EA's or PA's I had. I had those over 7 years ago. The depression that happened part of last year and this year is because of other life events I had happen, (his downward spiral of anger and being critical of us all the time and my father's death) not an excuse for any affair I had. I have not had any affairs this time around because after having been through that pain I would never want to do that to anyone ever again. I felt he was trying to justify my thinking of making excuses for his affair(s) to other people by saying he was always making excuses for my depression when I was in the depths of despair. There seems to be no comparison for a disease versus a bad choice, in my mind. It's an illness like anything else, just not as obvious because is not a seriously named physical illness. Although it is slowly gaining more recognition.

You may be right about the validation part, both of us are still hurt by things and so I know the feelings come out way before the validation.

Thanks for picking this up.