We are on the brink

[KdogGS]

With what you described about the money, him not having a job, supporting his drinking- I think this is a major issue. You are enabling him to not work, by supporting him financially. I know you are treading lightly, but I would reconsider how you are approaching this.

Were the roles ever reversed and he was the sole earner? How did he control the money then? If he wanted the money to go buy illegal drugs would you still give it to him? (Alcohol is a drug but not illegal of course.)

I understand he's a SAHD and that is a hard job, what kind of social circles does he have? Could he do part time work? I think there are examples in DR where the SAHS goes to work just to pull them out of their funk, give them adult interaction.