Also, don't make excuses for him. No one needs an explanation as to why he is not there. It seems you are trying to control him by using guilt and shame. It won't work. It will backfire. It is time for you to accept that you cannot control him or his choices. If you want your marriage to work, the first thing you need to do is stop being his enemy, which means that you can no longer engage him in a way that makes him feel defensive, or feed into the things he says and does that makes you feel defensive. Disengage.
You only have control over you. The rest you have to leave to whatever higher power you subscribe to.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
