TTD180, sorry should have replied to your message. I agree and have always thought this way: something does not add up. Maybe it is the OW being so controlling that has the W feeling like a little puppy dog at the moment, and then bang, all hell breaks loose.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.