Me 13 months on, affair finally confirmed.

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I just had a cleaner from our school tell me about the OW and the teacher (female) she was involved with years ago. She emphasised how controlling, domineering and demanding she (OW) was. To the point the teacher had to change schools. If just makes me mindread all over again. I feel my W was taken advantage of at her lowest point in our marriage and has been preened for moving into a PA.
I know it doesn't make any diffference and it is simply the W's journey. It is just hard when we the LBS seem to have the knowledge and commonsense of what could really be happening. How hard it is to move on, but also deal with the love and care of your W. Especially when they may find themselves in trouble down the track.
It would have to be similar to someone on drugs, you have to just watch them do the wrong thing, hurt the people who care about them, but knowing you cannot do anything to help them.
Too many people have mentioned the OW as being this horrible person and what she has done to other female teachers for me to misinterpret what is happening.
I just have to stay in the wings and be there for the W, if she ever needs me.
Otherwise still a good day. Had a lovely chat to my friend on my wedding anniversary. She is going through a lot of issues with anxiety and having a severely disabled child. So it was good to help her. Each day gets closer and closer for me to leave here, it is such a good feeling. I changed my address with a few more companies yesterday, only a few to go.
Oddly, my S21 rang last night. He sounded very strange on the phone, to the point I had to ask him if he was ok or needed to talk about something (mindreading, thought he was going to talk about the affair).
He rang to invite me to his girlfriends 21st, but this is next February. So that was the odd thing, way, way in advance with the invite, plus ringing me, rather than me ringing him.
Anyway, my friend suggested he might have known it was the anniversary and he was just trying to be supportive in a way. Possibly the case.